Relationship Tips for Digital Nomad Couples — Andy Sto

1. Set Boundaries

2. Create Space

3. Spend Quality Time

4. Focus on the Positive

5. Learn to Disagree Productively

  1. Stick to the topic at hand. We have al experienced a disagreement that has become a gateway for arguing about past hurts and other issues. If you want to resolve a specific issue, stick to the topic at hand. Avoid making the problem bigger than it is by confusing the issue with other problems.
  2. Choose your tone of voice and words carefully. Everyone has triggers, and you probably know what your partner’s are. When you are arguing, it can be tempting to push them, but again that just makes the argument worse, and the problem more difficult to resolve. Anger and shouting are also a trigger for most people, so try and remain in control of your tone of voice.
  3. Take responsibility and apologize for anything that you may have done. It can be difficult to apologize when you don’t think that you are principally at fault, especially if it feels like you are giving ground. It can also be hurtful to apologize and then not have the other person do it too. But when you are n disagreement, apologizing is an important olive branch that shows the other person that they are more important to you that it is to be right.
  4. Say I love you. For similar reasons, don’t forget to tell you partner that you love them and that you want to be with them while you are in a state of disagreement. It helps put issues in perspective.
  5. Try to choose a good time to argue. While this is not always possible to choose when an argument will emerge, if you are discussing a slow burning and ongoing issue, you can choose to take up the issue when you are both fresh and clear headed, rather than tired and potentially with a few drinks inside of you. You will both be more willing to compromise ad see the perspective of the other in the morning.
  6. Let the other person speak. When they say something that you disagree with you will probably want to jump in with a “but”. But getting your point across and being heard is essential to letting go, so listen to your partner speak before you jump in with your own thoughts. You might be surprised how quickly this can help diffuse the situation.
  7. Don’t invalidate feelings. While you might argue about the facts of the case, you should never delegitimize how your partner feels. If they tell you that something hurt and upset them, you can’t dismiss that feeling as invalid. You can tell them that you are sorry that they feel that way and that it was not your intension.

The Verdict

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